Sexual infidelity is the headline grabber when most people think about betrayals in love relationships. But, there are everyday breaches of trust that slide under the radar and can erode even the strongest of relationships.<\/p>\n
A small lie about a purchase, a slight exaggeration about a job promotion, a cover-up about a forgotten birthday\u2014each takes a bite out of trust and is a form of cheating. Most of us are disappointed by a love partner as a result of an everyday event far more often than we are made angry or jealous by a serious and dramatic betrayal.<\/p>\n
For example, Jeff maintains his friendship with Glen, an old army buddy, in utter secrecy. His wife, Dorothy, has always disliked Glen and has asked Jeff not to see him. Jeff has agreed but is undeterred. \u201cI find a way,\u201d he says. \u201cAll Dorothy knows is that I\u2019m working late, running an errand or something. We go for a drink, hang out together, that sort of thing. If I told Dorothy, she would raise the roof, so why aggravate her?\u201d<\/p>\n
What else does Jeff hide to avoid confrontation with Dorothy? And what if Dorothy were to discover Jeff\u2019s deception?<\/p>\n
Kevin and Janice, who have lived together for the past few years, are on the verge of splitting because Janice contends that Kevin \u201cnever lives up to his word.\u201d Here\u2019s what Janice had to say about some troubling events:<\/p>\n
\u201cI can\u2019t believe anything he tells me anymore. I ask him if he\u2019s taken care of the rent for this month and he assures me that he has. The next thing I know, the landlord is calling me and asking me about the rent. Or I ask him to do me a favor. He agrees and then doesn\u2019t come through.\u201d<\/p>\n
Kevin\u2019s choice of conveniently \u201cyessing\u201d Janice serves to help him avoid confrontation at the expense of his credibility. Janice justifiably feels cheated as a result of Kevin\u2019s lies.<\/p>\n
And what about the love partner who smokes? It\u2019s not only about second-hand smoke being a health hazard. One day the smoker is going to get sick. The non-smoking partner will be severely impacted both emotionally and practically. Is the smoker cheating?<\/p>\n
When we make a love commitment we become a team, and implicitly, it is also a vow to continue to grow and evolve as individuals.<\/p>\n
What about the love partner who is not becoming all he or she can? Is the love partner who is letting his or her appearance deteriorate cheating? What about the partner who is critical, rather than supportive, in hard and not so hard times? And the partner who is slacking in his or her career? Or the partner who doesn\u2019t comply with medical prescriptions and health-care suggestions?
\nAll of these breaches will impact the relationship. It\u2019s not just about an individual letting him or herself down; in a love relationship it\u2019s also cheating the partner.<\/p>\n
Trust is the bedrock of any love relationship. It is the bloodline of romantic passion. \u201cSubtle cheating\u201d is like psychological termites. Each small bite may go unnoticed, but eventually the foundation will weaken.<\/p>\n
Addressing these forms of cheating is win-win. It betters each individual and contributes to relationships being more open, uninhibited and passionate.<\/p>\n
So, do you cheat? Do you see this issue differently? Let\u2019s talk!<\/p>\n
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Sexual infidelity is the headline grabber when most people think about betrayals in love relationships. But, there are everyday breaches of trust that slide under the radar and can erode even the strongest of relationships. A small lie about a purchase, a slight exaggeration about a job promotion, a cover-up about a forgotten birthday\u2014each takes […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-283","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-news-you-can-use"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/drblock.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/283"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/drblock.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/drblock.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/drblock.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/drblock.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=283"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"http:\/\/drblock.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/283\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":394,"href":"http:\/\/drblock.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/283\/revisions\/394"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/drblock.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=283"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/drblock.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=283"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/drblock.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=283"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}